So I faithfully watch “Young and the Restless” every day that I am home at 12:30. While I am trying to process the fact that my mother lied to me for 67 years, a character on the show named Damian is going through the same thing. Only with 1 big difference, his mother is still alive.
I tried to deny that it was true while on the phone with my new cousin. He is all excited to find a new relative and doesn’t realize that with every word he says, he is blowing my world apart. His uncle was a great guy, he managed a Quality Dairy Store. Those were the words that made me start to believe him. My mother worked for Quality Dairy for 20 years.
So what do I do now? I called my cousin Jim, his dad was moms brother. My Uncle had worked part time delivering for Quality Dairy, It was a long shot but maybe Jim remembered hearing something. Nope but he thinks my uncle knew the truth because mom and him were close. Of coarse we can’t ask him, he’s been gone 6 years now.
Then I called my cousin Gloria, she is my aunts daughter that was my dad’s sister. Bless her heart, she was sure it was a scam! Uncle Dick adored you, there is no way this is true! And she is right, my dad and I were super close. I don’t believe he knew.
He probably wondered because I did. There weren’t pictures of my mom when she was pregnant, I wasn’t born until they had been married for 6 years, and they never had any more children. All that made me ask as a child if I was adopted. As I got older, I looked like my mom and her side of the family. I never thought I could be hers but not dads.
I still haven’t seen or talked to any of my half siblings. Not sure if I want to! Right now it doesn’t feel real once we connect i don’t know how i will feel.
Don told me his uncle lived until 2012. My dad died in 1974, i was 3 months away from being 17. Maybe I could have had a dad all those years. I don’t know if he knew about me. Maybe even saw me with my mom when I went to her work. One of my half brothers was born the same year as me. I think 2 are older and one is younger,. I am not sure though as I still haven’t had any contact. One tried to call me but I missed the call and she has never tried to call back. I did call the number and got voice mail but didn’t leave a message.
Guess there will be a part three if we ever meet.
I still don’t know how to feel toward my mom. She always told me she named me after a little girl she took care of as a teenager. She gave me her first name, her last name was the same as my bio dad. Coincidence? What kind of person was my mom before there was a me? My Grandma ( mom’s stepmother) told me once that my mother was a troubled teenager and ran away to Florida with a guy at 15. I never asked mom about it. When I was around 10 I found divorce papers with dad’s name on them. That was when I found out that the teenagers that would spend the night now and then where my dad’s step grandchildren. He had been married to a woman with 5 kids. And he keep in touch with one of her daughters. They never had kids together. Shortly after that I found out my parents had only known each other for 2 weeks when they eloped. My dad was 38 and mom was 21, the year was 1951.